Dear Steve and Shirley,
I'm married, and my husband has gotten so clingy since our daughter went off to college. He's clinging to both me and her. She’s about three hours away, and he went to every single one of her school’s football games. And the killer part? He went to the rival college, so it had to be weird for him.
He’d check into his hotel room and have a whole itinerary planned out for the two of them. She was not having it—and it ended up breaking his heart. By the third game, I had to go with him because he looked so pitiful chasing after her alone.
Now that it’s her second semester, he’s latched onto me. I have hobbies and things I like to do, and I honestly don’t want him tagging along. A few weeks ago, I went to a candle-making class with my girlfriends, and guess what? He showed up uninvited with a little bottle of tequila, saying the class would’ve been boring without it.
I can’t even watch TV alone in our bedroom because he comes hopping in the bed, asking me questions about my reality shows while I’m trying to watch them.
I can’t even get a snack without him asking me to make him one too—and then suggesting we go sit on the back patio and talk. I’m all talked out and romanced out. It's too much sex and way too much him right now.
He played baseball in college, so I suggested he go coach a little league team, but he said he’d rather spend time with me and our daughter.
How do I get him into golf or some other sport that takes a long, long time to learn? I’m sick of being with him all the time.
Now he’s even starting to repeat gossip he hears me and my girls talk about, because he’s always right in my face!
How do I encourage my husband to get a life… and stop ruining mine?